As my interest in firearms and shooting increases and as I take steps to become more independent of my male friends by finding events, groups and friends that are female, I find it interesting the reactions that I am getting. In some cases I feel badly but also a bit frustrated and suffocated at the same time.
Last night when I shared with one of my male shooting partners all the wonderful things that I had in planned this month, I got a very nasty response back stating how selfish I was and I was only concerned for my own happiness. I'm assuming this comment stems from the fact that all the classes that I have set up for this month are women only events and he feels left out so therefore felt the need to say harsh and mean things. Not to worry, this person is no longer a friend as of last night, I don't need someone who isn't going to support me and is only going to make me feel badly about what I'm trying to do.
I deviated sorry:
I know that this interest/hobby is mostly a man dominated one but it is becoming less so as more women start to take up with the interest and I'm loving the fact of how much female support that I'm finding. Don't get me wrong, I still like bonding with my male friends but it's nice to have the softer side of Sears as well.
I forgot my whole point since I was interrupted at work, oh well.
I think it's vial tat women become a larger and active part of shooting in general. Good luck and best wishes in all of your endevours, shooting and otherwise.
ReplyDeleteThank you very much, I definitely appreciate the encouragement. :)
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ReplyDeleteYeah, some people are like that and don't need to be around. It's no different than "girls night out", sometimes you just have to be around your lady friends. The flip side of that though (in life in general, not your women only self defense and shooting stuff) id that the predators in this world view women as easy targets, so it never hurts to have along one of us just for looks
ReplyDeleteI can't agree more but I definitely like to prepare as much as I possible can just in case I don't have a male around for looks or otherwise. :) I am, after all, not a big girl and I'm sure a lot of predators could see me as an easy target, lets just hope I never have to prove them wrong ;)
DeleteBut the fact that you are taking steps to ensure your own safety, and that of those around you, speaks volumes. Keep it up and don't worry about those that disagree with the choices you make dealing with your personal safety.
DeletePersonally, I'll teach any woman I know how to do what you're learning if they are interested. I don't do it to show off, I do it because I want them to be able to take care of themselves in the event they are attacked. I have a couple x's who have been raped and another who was stabbed when she was 19, then she was shot a few years later. They all started taking safety very seriously after those events. As crappy as it may sound, if they would have been prepared before hand things might have been better. Reason I say that is all three of them said they were running around in "condition white" (blinders on to what was going on around them, paying no attention to the world around them), now they have learned to watch their surroundings but they paid a high price to learn that lesson
I think it's great that you are willing to teach anyone willing to learn, I would never see that as a showing off thing. I am thankful that I only ever had one bad instance in my life, when I was five and other than that, I've been very fortunate, even in the few situations where it might have been handy to have these skills that I have now.
DeleteLearning to take care of yourself and investing in your time is not selfish.
ReplyDeleteSeriously, come shoot with me sometime. We'll have a good time.
Lets definitely do it and I'm not just saying that. You will have to let me know a good weekend that we can get together.
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